Scheduling a mediation session is a very good choice for yourself and your children. It is a financially sensible and family friendly decision. Now, ensure you are doing everything possible to assist the process and contribute to the mediation success. Here are ten practical tips on how to go about your first mediation.
Present organised financial documents
Have the list of all the assets you own and balances of all bank accounts and retirement funds. For your debts, make sure you give concrete information on the balances and monthly payment for each. Check with your mediator whether you should bring original or photocopy documents. An organised document will do wonders in saving your money and time.
Control your emotions
Mediation is negotiation process and uncontrolled emotions will not allow you to have a clear head you need. This is not the time to get at the other party or to use hurtful words. Be kind to yourself and come to mediation as composed as you can.
Focus on negotiation not argument
Look forward to a proactive mediation process not argument. Argument will not work because it is something you had done before and failed. Know what you want and work towards it with the help of your mediator within reasons and within the scope of achievable targets.
Ask a private talk session with your mediator
You can ask a private talk with your mediator for a few minutes if you have specific concerns with them. Most mediators understand that not everything can be discussed with everyone in the room. This private discussion will tremendously boost the mediation process.
Get an attorney for legal advice
It is very important to know what your rights are and when to get legal advice during your mediation process. It is a great idea to have some legal advice as well as keeping yourselves out of litigation from adversarial proceedings.
Know your rights and obligations
Gather information from more than one consultant as well as reading legal articles. Do not begin divorce process before you know your rights and obligation, implications and meaning. Go to a few consultants separately or together with your mediator, and ask a lot of questions. This will get you a clear picture of the options you have and what each option mean to you.
Write or table your concerns
Your interests are very important for the mediation process. Put then on the table for discussion. Ensure everything is relevant and discussable. This proactive process will assist you in setting the grounds for productive co-operation and peace of mind.
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