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Using mediation to help you separate

Divorce mediation

Mediation is a method of sorting any distinctions between you and your ex-partner, with the help of a third person who won’t take sides. The 3rd person is called a conciliator. They can assist you reach an agreement about problems with money, residential or commercial property or children.

You can try mediation prior to going to a lawyer. They’ll probably talk to you about whether using mediation initially could assist if you go to a lawyer first.

You don’t need to go to mediation, however if you end up needing to go to court to sort out your differences, you typically need to show you’ve been to a mediation info and evaluation meeting (MIAM). This is an introductory meeting to discuss what mediation is and how it may help you.

There are some exceptions when you do not have to go to the MIAM prior to going to court – for instance, if you have actually suffered domestic abuse.

You should call the mediator and discuss the circumstance if you require to go to court and your ex-partner does not desire to see an arbitrator. You can’t force your ex-partner to go to mediation.

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If your partner makes you feel distressed or threatened, you must get aid.

You don’t require to go to mediation to assist you end your relationship.

You can call Refuge or Women’s Aid on 0808 2000 247 at any time.

Monday to Friday if you’re a male affected by domestic abuse you can call Men’s Advice Line on 0808 801 0327 in between 9am to 5pm.

If you’re uncertain about what to do next, contact your nearby People Recommendations.

If you can, it’s better to attempt and reach an arrangement through mediation. You could conserve money in legal charges and it can be simpler to resolve any differences.

You can discover more about how mediation operates in this family mediation brochure on GOV.UK.

Find your nearest family arbitrator on the Family Mediation Council site.

Just how much mediation costs

Mediation isn’t totally free, however it’s quicker and more affordable than litigating. If you’re on a low earnings you might be able to get legal aid to pay for:

  • the introductory meeting – this covers both of you, even if only one of you receives legal help
  • one mediation session – that covers both of you
  • more mediation sessions – just the individual who qualifies for legal aid will be covered
  • help from a solicitor after mediation, for instance to make your arrangement legally binding

Legally binding means you have to adhere to the regards to the arrangement by law.

Examine if you’re eligible for legal aid on GOV.UK.

, if you do not certify for legal aid

The cost of mediation differs depending upon where you live. Phone around to discover the very best rate, but remember the least expensive may not be the best.

Some arbitrators base their charges on how much you earn – so you might pay less if you’re on a low income.

If you want to keep the expenses of mediation down, try to agree as much as you can with your ex-partner before you start. For example, you might have already agreed plans about your kids, however require help agreeing how to divide your money.

You might also agree a set number of sessions with your mediator – this might assist you and your ex-partner focus on getting a quicker resolution.

Prior to you go to mediation

Consider what you want to leave mediation before you begin. Mediation is more likely to be successful if you can spend the sessions focusing on things you actually disagree on.

You’ll require to fill out a monetary disclosure form when you go to mediation if you’re trying to reach an arrangement about money or property. You’ll have to include all your financial info:

  • your earnings – for instance, from work or advantages
  • what you invest in living expenses – such as transportation, energies and food
  • how much cash you have in savings account
  • debts you owe
  • home you own

Start gathering expenses and bank declarations together to require to the first mediation meeting. Some arbitrators will send you a form like this to fill out before your very first visit.

When you talk about your finances, it’s crucial that you and your ex-partner are sincere. Any agreement you make might not be legitimate if your ex-partner later on discovers out you tried to conceal something from them. Your ex-partner might likewise take you to court for a bigger share of your cash.

What happens in mediation

In the introductory meeting, you and your ex-partner will typically meet separately with a qualified conciliator. After this, you’ll have mediation sessions where you, your ex-partner and the conciliator will sit together to discuss your differences.

You and your ex-partner can being in various spaces if you feel unable to sit together and ask the mediator to go back and forwards in between you. This type of mediation takes longer, so it’s typically more costly.

The arbitrator can’t offer legal recommendations, but they will:

  • listen to both your points of view – they will not take sides
  • help to create a calm environment where you can reach an agreement you’re both delighted with
  • suggest practical actions to help you settle on things

Whatever you state in mediation is confidential.

If you have children, your conciliator will usually concentrate on what’s best for them and their requirements. If they think it’s suitable and you agree to it, the arbitrator might even talk to your kids.

At the end of your mediation

Your mediator will write a ‘memorandum of understanding’ – this is a document that shows what you have actually concurred. You’ll both get a copy.

If your arrangement is about cash or property, it’s a good idea to take your memorandum of comprehending to a lawyer and ask to turn it into a ‘authorization order’. If they do not stick to something you agreed, this means you can take your ex-partner to court.

You can make an application for an approval order after you’ve started the procedure of getting separated or ending your civil collaboration. It needs to be authorized by a judge in court – this will cost ₤ 50. You’ll also have to pay your lawyer’s fees.

Examine if you can get legal help to cover your costs on GOV.UK.

, if you can’t reach an arrangement through mediation

If you can’t reach an agreement with your ex-partner through mediation, you should talk to a lawyer. They’ll encourage you what to do next.

Find your closest solicitor on the Law Society website.

If you disagree about what must occur with your kids, a solicitor may recommend that you keep attempting to reach a contract in between yourselves.

If they think the parents can arrange things out themselves, courts normally will not decide who a child spends or lives time with. This is called the ‘no order concept’.

You might attempt to make a parenting strategy. This is a composed or online record of how you and your ex-partner mean to care for your kids. Discover more about making a parenting plan on the Children and Family Court Advisory and Assistance Service site.

A solicitor will most likely recommend sort things out in court if you disagree about money or property and you’ve tried mediation.

If you ‘d rather avoid court, you could try:

  • going to a ‘collaborative law’ session – you and your partner will both have solicitors in the room interacting to reach an agreement
  • going to family arbitration – an arbitrator is a bit like a judge – they’ll look at the important things you and your ex-partner disagree on and make their own choice

Both of these options can be pricey, however they may still be less expensive than litigating. It’s finest to get recommendations from a lawyer before attempting either.

Going to collective law

You and your ex-partner have your own lawyers who are specially trained in collaborative law. The four of you meet in the same room and work together to reach an agreement.

You’ll each require to pay your lawyers’ fees, which can be pricey. How much you’ll pay at the end depends upon the length of time it takes for you and your ex-partner to reach an arrangement.

Before you begin your collaborative law sessions, you each have to sign a contract stating you’ll try to reach an arrangement. You’ll need to go to court to arrange out the issues if you still can’t reach a contract. You can’t utilize the exact same solicitor, so you’ll need to discover a different one – this can be pricey.

When you reach a contract through collaborative law, your lawyers will typically prepare a ‘consent order’ – this is a lawfully binding contract about your finances.

If you’re not yet prepared to request a divorce or end your civil partnership, they can record your plans as a ‘separation agreement’ instead.

A separation agreement isn’t lawfully binding. Nevertheless, you’ll normally have the ability to utilize it in court if:

  • it’s been drafted properly, for instance by a solicitor
  • When you made the agreement, you and your ex-partner’s financial circumstances are the same as

Discover a collaborative attorney on the Resolution website.

If you’re fretted about the expense of a solicitor

Solicitors can be extremely expensive. Prepare what you want to talk about prior to you talk to them to keep your sessions as brief as possible.

Some lawyers use an initial conference free of charge or a fixed cost – utilize this time to discover as much as you can. You’re not likely to get comprehensive suggestions, but you need to get a concept of how complicated your case is and approximately just how much it’ll cost you.

You need to ask your solicitor to offer you a composed estimate of just how much your legal costs will be.

Going to family arbitration

Family arbitration is another option if you wish to avoid of court.

It’s a bit like going to court, however in family arbitration an arbitrator decides based upon your circumstances – not a judge. You and your ex-partner pick the arbitrator you wish to utilize. You can likewise select where the hearing happens and which issues you concentrate on.

An arbitrator’s choice is legally binding. This implies you need to stay with the terms of the contract by law.

Arbitration can be more affordable than litigating, however it can still be pricey. You can’t get legal help for it. The exact amount you’ll pay depends upon where you live and the length of time it takes you and your ex-partner to reach an agreement.

Family arbitration might be an excellent choice if you and your ex-partner:

  • want a fast decision – awaiting a court hearing can sometimes take more than a year, whereas an arbitrator would normally have the ability to start rather
  • can’t reach a contract through mediation or by using lawyers – however you ‘d still like to prevent litigating
  • would choose another person to make a decision for you, instead of having to work out yourselves

Arbitration isn’t cheap and you can’t get legal help for it, however it may still be less expensive than going to court. Court could cost a number of thousand pounds.

A simple arbitration case might cost ₤ 1,000, but you could end up paying far more – the exact quantity depends where you live and how long it takes to reach a contract.

It’s a good concept to talk to a solicitor prior to deciding on arbitration – they can inform you if it’s right for you, and might be able to advise a great regional family arbitrator.

You can likewise discover a family arbitrator online on the Institute of Family Law Arbitrators website.

Mediation is a method of sorting any distinctions in between you and your ex-partner, with the help of a third individual who won’t take sides. If your ex-partner later discovers out you tried to hide something from them, any agreement you make may not be legitimate. Before you begin your collaborative law sessions, you each have to sign a contract stating you’ll try to reach an arrangement. If you still can’t reach a contract, you’ll need to go to court to arrange out the issues. The exact quantity you’ll pay depends on where you live and how long it takes you and your ex-partner to reach an arrangement.

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