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Solent Family Mediation help households in conflict, especially those divorcing or separating.

Our family mediation service is quicker and more cost-efficient than heading to court. It reduces conflict, and your family stays in control of arrangements over children, property and financing.

We work right across England and Wales and our family mediation service has more than 30 years’ experience offering expert, professional family mediation services.

Using mediation to help you different

Divorce mediation

Mediation is a way of arranging any distinctions between you and your ex-partner, with the help of a 3rd individual who won’t take sides. The third individual is called a mediator. They can assist you reach an arrangement about problems with cash, home or children.

You can try mediation before going to a lawyer. If you go to a lawyer first, they’ll most likely speak with you about whether utilizing mediation initially might assist.

You do not have to go to mediation, however if you end up needing to go to court to sort out your distinctions, you normally require to show you have actually been to a mediation information and assessment conference (MIAM). This is an introductory conference to describe what mediation is and how it might assist you.

There are some exceptions when you do not have to go to the MIAM before litigating – for instance, if you’ve suffered domestic abuse.

If you need to go to court and your ex-partner does not wish to see a mediator, you should call the arbitrator and describe the circumstance. You can’t require your ex-partner to go to mediation.

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You must get help if your partner makes you feel distressed or threatened.

You do not need to go to mediation to help you end your relationship.

You can call Refuge or Women’s Help on 0808 2000 247 at any time.

If you’re a male affected by domestic abuse you can call Men’s Recommendations Line on 0808 801 0327 in between 9am to 5pm, Monday to Friday.

If you’re not sure about what to do next, contact your closest Citizens Recommendations.

If you can, it’s much better to try and reach an arrangement through mediation. You could save money in legal costs and it can be easier to fix any distinctions.

You can find out more about how mediation operates in this family mediation brochure on GOV.UK.

Find your closest family mediator on the Family Mediation Council website.

How much mediation costs

Mediation isn’t free, however it’s quicker and cheaper than litigating. If you’re on a low earnings you might be able to get legal aid to pay for:

  • the initial meeting – this covers both of you, even if only one of you gets approved for legal aid
  • one mediation session – that covers both of you
  • more mediation sessions – only the person who gets approved for legal aid will be covered
  • help from a lawyer after mediation, for instance to make your contract legally binding

Lawfully binding methods you need to stick to the regards to the agreement by law.

If you’re qualified for legal aid on GOV.UK, check.

, if you don’t certify for legal aid

The cost of mediation varies depending upon where you live. Phone around to discover the very best price, but keep in mind the most affordable may not be the very best.

Some arbitrators base their charges on how much you earn – so you may pay less if you’re on a low income.

If you want to keep the costs of mediation down, try to concur as much as you can with your ex-partner before you begin. You might have already concurred arrangements about your kids, however require help concurring how to divide your money.

You could also concur a fixed variety of sessions with your mediator – this might help you and your ex-partner focus on getting a quicker resolution.

Prior to you go to mediation

Think about what you want to leave mediation before you start. If you can invest the sessions focusing on things you truly disagree on, Mediation is more likely to be successful.

If you’re attempting to reach an arrangement about money or property, you’ll need to submit a financial disclosure form when you go to mediation. You’ll have to include all your financial information:

  • your earnings – for instance, from work or benefits
  • what you spend on living costs – such as transport, utilities and food
  • just how much cash you have in savings account
  • financial obligations you owe
  • home you own

Start gathering expenses and bank declarations together to require to the very first mediation conference. Some arbitrators will send you a form like this to complete prior to your first consultation.

It is very important that you and your ex-partner are sincere when you discuss your finances. Any agreement you make might not be valid if your ex-partner later discovers out you attempted to hide something from them. Your ex-partner might also take you to court for a bigger share of your money.

What occurs in mediation

In the initial conference, you and your ex-partner will generally satisfy independently with a qualified mediator. After this, you’ll have mediation sessions where you, your ex-partner and the mediator will sit together to discuss your distinctions.

If you feel not able to sit together and ask the arbitrator to go back and forwards in between you, you and your ex-partner can sit in various spaces. This sort of mediation takes longer, so it’s normally more costly.

The mediator can’t offer legal advice, but they will:

  • listen to both your viewpoints – they won’t take sides
  • help to produce a calm environment where you can reach a contract you’re both pleased with
  • suggest useful actions to assist you agree on things

Whatever you state in mediation is personal.

If you have children, your mediator will normally concentrate on what’s best for them and their requirements. If they believe it’s proper and you agree to it, the arbitrator might even talk to your children.

At the end of your mediation

Your arbitrator will compose a ‘memorandum of understanding’ – this is a file that shows what you’ve agreed. You’ll both get a copy.

If your contract is about cash or home, it’s a great concept to take your memorandum of understanding to a lawyer and ask them to turn it into a ‘permission order’. This means you can take your ex-partner to court if they do not stick to something you agreed.

You can make an application for an authorization order after you have actually begun the procedure of getting separated or ending your civil partnership. It requires to be authorized by a judge in court – this will cost ₤ 50. You’ll also have to pay your lawyer’s charges.

Inspect if you can get legal help to cover your costs on GOV.UK.

If you can’t reach a contract through mediation

If you can’t reach a contract with your ex-partner through mediation, you ought to talk to a lawyer. They’ll encourage you what to do next.

Discover your nearby lawyer on the Law Society website.

A solicitor might suggest that you keep attempting to reach a contract in between yourselves if you disagree about what need to happen with your children.

Courts generally won’t choose who a kid lives or invests time with if they think the moms and dads can arrange things out themselves. This is called the ‘no order concept’.

You might attempt to make a parenting plan. This is a written or online record of how you and your ex-partner intend to take care of your children. Learn more about making a parenting plan on the Kid and Family Court Advisory and Support Service website.

A solicitor will most likely suggest sort things out in court if you disagree about cash or property and you’ve attempted mediation.

If you ‘d rather prevent court, you could attempt:

  • going to a ‘collaborative law’ session – you and your partner will both have lawyers in the room collaborating to reach an arrangement
  • going to family arbitration – an arbitrator is a bit like a judge – they’ll look at the important things you and your ex-partner disagree on and make their own choice

Both of these options can be costly, however they might still be less expensive than litigating. It’s best to get suggestions from a solicitor before trying either.

Going to collective law

You and your ex-partner have your own solicitors who are specifically trained in collective law. The 4 of you satisfy in the very same room and collaborate to reach an arrangement.

You’ll each require to pay your solicitors’ fees, which can be costly. Just how much you’ll pay at the end depends upon how long it considers you and your ex-partner to reach an agreement.

Before you begin your collective law sessions, you each need to sign an agreement stating you’ll attempt to reach an agreement. You’ll require to go to court to arrange out the problems if you still can’t reach a contract. You can’t utilize the very same lawyer, so you’ll need to find a different one – this can be costly.

When you reach a contract through collective law, your solicitors will normally prepare a ‘consent order’ – this is a legally binding arrangement about your finances.

If you’re not yet ready to obtain a divorce or end your civil partnership, they can tape-record your arrangements as a ‘separation contract’ rather.

A separation arrangement isn’t legally binding. You’ll typically be able to utilize it in court if:

  • it’s been drafted effectively, for example by a solicitor
  • When you made the contract, you and your ex-partner’s financial scenarios are the very same as

Find a collaborative legal representative on the Resolution site.

, if you’re worried about the expense of a solicitor

Lawyers can be extremely pricey. Prepare what you wish to discuss prior to you speak to them to keep your sessions as short as possible.

Some solicitors offer a preliminary conference totally free or a fixed expense – utilize this time to find out as much as you can. You’re unlikely to get in-depth advice, but you must get an idea of how complicated your case is and approximately just how much it’ll cost you.

You ought to ask your lawyer to provide you a composed estimate of how much your legal charges will be.

Going to family arbitration

If you want to stay out of court, Family arbitration is another option.

It’s a bit like going to court, but in family arbitration an arbitrator decides based upon your scenarios – not a judge. You and your ex-partner pick the arbitrator you wish to utilize. You can likewise select where the hearing occurs and which concerns you focus on.

An arbitrator’s decision is legally binding. This indicates you need to stay with the regards to the contract by law.

Arbitration can be more affordable than litigating, however it can still be costly. You can’t get legal aid for it. The precise quantity you’ll pay depends upon where you live and how long it takes you and your ex-partner to reach an agreement.

Family arbitration might be a great alternative if you and your ex-partner:

  • desire a fast choice – waiting on a court hearing can often take more than a year, whereas an arbitrator would normally be able to begin rather
  • can’t reach a contract through mediation or by using solicitors – however you ‘d still like to prevent going to court
  • would prefer somebody else to decide for you, instead of needing to negotiate yourselves

Arbitration isn’t low-cost and you can’t get legal aid for it, but it may still be less expensive than litigating. Court could cost numerous thousand pounds.

An easy arbitration case may cost ₤ 1,000, however you might end up paying a lot more – the precise amount depends where you live and how long it requires to reach an arrangement.

It’s a good idea to speak with a solicitor prior to selecting arbitration – they can inform you if it’s right for you, and might be able to recommend an excellent local family arbitrator.

You can also discover a family arbitrator online on the Institute of Family Law Arbitrators site.

Mediation is a way of sorting any distinctions between you and your ex-partner, with the aid of a third individual who will not take sides. If your ex-partner later discovers out you tried to hide something from them, any agreement you make might not be legitimate. Before you start your collective law sessions, you each have to sign a contract stating you’ll try to reach an arrangement. If you still can’t reach a contract, you’ll require to go to court to arrange out the concerns. The exact amount you’ll pay depends on where you live and how long it takes you and your ex-partner to reach an agreement.

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